Child Healing 5D
Anxiety Issues, Autism, Speech Delay.
"Before that, he was in diapers. We managed to toilet-train him during the Circuit Breaker (lockdown). He is more aware of having the feeling - 'I need to go to the toilet now'. In the past, he did not really cry out. Most of the time, he buried his head or he just suddenly teared. Now, he will cry out with sound, which I find it more normal.
In the past, he would just pull our hands. Now he is more wordy in communicating his requests. Last time, he could only say two words or more. But now, he will try to form sentences. When he sees some things, he will let you know. He will share more things with us now. I find that his expressions have changed too.
In the past, when he talked, it was empty - there was really no expression - it was blank. Now I find that his eyes are excited. He wants you to really look at him. When we scolded him if he was in the wrong in the past, there would be no expression - he would walk away. But now when we scold him, he will listen and proceed to apologise. Quite different from the past."
~ Mdm Goh
"Before that, he was in diapers. We managed to toilet-train him during the Circuit Breaker (lockdown). He is more aware of having the feeling - 'I need to go to the toilet now'. In the past, he did not really cry out. Most of the time, he buried his head or he just suddenly teared. Now, he will cry out with sound, which I find it more normal.
In the past, he would just pull our hands. Now he is more wordy in communicating his requests. Last time, he could only say two words or more. But now, he will try to form sentences. When he sees some things, he will let you know. He will share more things with us now. I find that his expressions have changed too.
In the past, when he talked, it was empty - there was really no expression - it was blank. Now I find that his eyes are excited. He wants you to really look at him. When we scolded him if he was in the wrong in the past, there would be no expression - he would walk away. But now when we scold him, he will listen and proceed to apologise. Quite different from the past."
~ Mdm Goh
Background Info
5yo Boy C (Singapore)
Medical history: Anxiety Issues, Autism. Speech Delay. Diagnosed with ASD. Non-verbal.
Started koo energy Sleep Therapy on 20.1.20.
Medical history: Anxiety Issues, Autism. Speech Delay. Diagnosed with ASD. Non-verbal.
Started koo energy Sleep Therapy on 20.1.20.
After 5.5 months
12.7.20
After 5.5 months of koo energy Sleep Therapy, the mother shared with us on her son's progress:
After 5.5 months of koo energy Sleep Therapy, the mother shared with us on her son's progress:
Sleeping habits have improved.
More receptive to try new food.
More aware of his toilet cues.
Meltdowns with trigger points.
Difference in crying now - No sound in the past.
Play fight incident - Expressive in writing.
More expressive - Forming sentences, sharing more, more facial expression.
Attention seeking.
Behavioural differences - recognises anger, listens and apologises.
More wordy in expressing his desire instead of pulling hand gestures.
Detox reactions - fever, running nose, crying.
Sister's Improvement
7yo Sister X
Medical condition: Stammers. Occasional flare-up of hives.
After 5.5 months of Sleep Therapy, the mother notices the following improvement in her daughter, as a Secondary User (as the younger brother sleeps at the upper deck of the double-decker bed) :
She can correct her own stammering at times.
Frequency of hives flares up has reduced.
Watch here how her detox reactions went:
Medical condition: Stammers. Occasional flare-up of hives.
After 5.5 months of Sleep Therapy, the mother notices the following improvement in her daughter, as a Secondary User (as the younger brother sleeps at the upper deck of the double-decker bed) :
She can correct her own stammering at times.
Frequency of hives flares up has reduced.
Watch here how her detox reactions went:
Detox reaction - 2 days of very high fever and rashes.
Boy's Improvement interview Transcript
Sleeping Habits have improved
You son has experienced this Sleep therapy over the past five and a half month. In terms of his sleep quality, what do you observe?
Mother: “I used to be on the bed with him, so I did see him fidget a lot. But I wa not sure whether he was not willing to sleep or he had trouble falling asleep. But now I do not need to be on the bed with him. I just need to tell him to just lie down on the pillow. I would say maybe on good days, within half an hour he can fall asleep. Sometimes he does take a longer time but I feel like that it is not like in the past when he was very unwilling. He knows that he is tired, he just need to lie down. He is getting more aware of this kind of emotion.”
So he would sleep on his own now?
Mother: “Yes, he sleeps on his own.”
Since when you started him sleeping on his own?
Mother: “In early February.”
That is two months after starting the Sleep Therapy.
Mother: “Yes, around 2 months.”
When he wakes up in the morning, does he feel cranky?
Mother: “No, usually not actually.”
So he is alert and recharged lah?
Mother: “Yah he is alert.”
Can tahan (last for) the whole day? Does he take naps?
Mother: “He does take naps in the school, but during weekends at home he does not take naps.”
Did the teachers feedback about his sleeping habits in school?
Mother: “The teacher did say most of the time he would nap, but maybe it's due to peer pressure. He will see others sleeping then he will also sleep.”
More Receptive to try new food
Mother: “Diet-wise, he is getting more greedy. Sometimes when we let him try new food, he tries it, he likes it, then he will ask for more. Sometimes, he will get angry if it is not enough. In the past when we said no more, he would just walk away. But now when we say no more, (he will say) "cannot". He will ask for more.”
You wrote here that it was difficult for him to try new foods in the past, so not receptive?
Mother: “Yes. Now we can use some songs. "Remember the coco-melon?" And then he will try.”
He used to be sensitive, what do you mean by that?
Mother: “In the past, we used to feed him sweet potato. Sweet potatoes taste the same, but sometimes he would spit out. Maybe the shape is different. I would say maybe it is food shapes rather than texture. He would spit out some of the sweet potatoes, but the taste was the same. We needed to cut a little smaller, (square, then he would be willing to eat.”
He used to be very sensitive in terms of his taste and smell.
Mother: “Yes.”
More aware on his toilet cues
How about toilet habits?
Mother: “We managed to toilet-train him during the CB (Circuit Breaker). He is more aware of having the feeling - "I need to go to the toilet now". Before that, he was in diapers.”
Partly because of his bladder now in better working condition, so you can see that this has improved a lot.
How about his (bowel) motion? Is it regular?
Mother: “It is quite regular. It is always around twice a day.”
There was a period of time when you mentioned that it reduced in frequency.
Mother: “Now, it is still twice a day.”
Texture wise? Hard or soft?
Mother: “Soft.”
We work on the diet, because the texture should not be too soft either, not too hard not too soft on the average, it depends on what we are eating.
Meltdowns with trigger points
Is there a period of time when there was meltdowns in terms of his behaviour?
Mother: “The meltdowns will always have a trigger point, which we know is always due to the lift. Because he is obsessed with it. If we don’t give him enough time to really see the lift, he will melt down. Other than that, not much. But recently, I will not say it is a meltdown. I would say it is a fight-off between him and his sister. Because there are certain behaviours that he cannot accept his sister will do, like turning on any of the electrical appliances or taking our things, he cannot accept. Then he will be very aggressive.”
So there it is trigger point?
Mother: “There is trigger point, yes.”
Was there an increase or decrease, in terms of sensitivity.
Mother: “Sensitivity to his emotions - I would say there is no increase. It is reasonable, because he does not accept, that is why he (acts up).”
So there is thinking on his part, or rather we say this is normalised reaction.
Mother: “Yes.”
Difference in Crying Now - No sound in the past
Mother: “He did not really cry out. Most of the time, he buried his head in either one of his caregivers or he just suddenly teared. He did not cry out as per (normal).”
That was in the past?
Mother: “That was the past. Now he will cry out with sound, which I find it more normal, more reassuring. Because I cannot really accept a child cries, just silently like that.”
With no reason?
Mother: “With reason, but it is actually very difficult to suppress your feelings without sound. I know he is upset but he does not have sounds - he was just tearing like that.”
So in the past you observed that it was abnormal?
Mother: “To me, it was quite worrying because he was like suppressing. Why couldn'’t he just let it out? But now, he will let it out, which I find okay.”
Is it possible to reason with him when he cries?
Mother: “Normally, we don’t really reason. We will tell him it is okay - we are here. Reasoning normally is after when he is more peaceful and calm.”
Play Fight Incident - Expressive in Writing
There was this incident where you told us that there was some fighting between the two siblings?
Mother: “Sometimes when they play, he will turn aggressive too. I also don’t know the reason why. They were like maybe playing catching. When he caught his sister, he would push her. Then he would push harder, keep pushing and pushing. Despite us saying "ok enough no pushing", it seems like he could not hear us.”
When he was angry?
Mother: “But they were playing just now. Or maybe, I missed out some details. Despite my several warnings, he did not stop pushing. I caned him. Then he wrote a lot of words to me, saying that he is sad and saying that he is a good boy, he is good Kaichen. When he showed me when he was sad, I explained to him that he cannot beat family, he cannot push family. We even have a family book with all those love balloons, that you need to fill with love, special value. Inside the balloons there is no pushing, there is no fighting. We did show him and then he just wrote that he is very sad.”
But did he apologise?
Mother: “He did apologise to his sister but it is more like because I caned him. I do not feel the sincerity. He just said out because of routine. Or because 'I am being beaten by mama, so I say sorry'.”
That is not too bad, that means he can understand the consequential effect!
More Expressive - Forming sentences, Sharing More, More Facial Expression
Did you notice the change in the way he expresses himself?
Mother: “Yes, last time he could only say two words or more. But now, he will try to form sentences although it is not very perfect but he will try to talk to you more. When he sees some things, he will let you know what did he see. He will share more things with us now.”
What are the words he will use?
Mother: “Most of the time, he will catch our attention first. "Ma look at me", "See the birds flying in the sky?", "It is so beautiful", "The orange building is so beautiful", like he will try to describe.”
This is two to three months after the Sleep Therapy?
Mother: “Longer than that. t only happened maybe somewhere in April.”
Three months - I noticed that in your chatgroup that he is saying things like "it’s so amazing", and he will convey to you how he feels.
Mother: “Yes. And I find that his expressions changed too. In the past, when he talked, it was empty - there was really no expression.”
Blank?
Mother: “Yes, it was blank. But now I find that his eyes are excited. He wants you to really look at him. He wants to share things with you.”
More engaged.
Mother: “Yes yes.”
How about his communication with his older sister?
Mother: “He loves to share things with her. But maybe because different interests. He doesn't really catch the elder sister’s attention. Sometimes the communication is one way. We will have to ask ‘Jiejie, Didi is talking to you. Answer him!’ But the jiejie is like ‘boring, I don’t want to talk to you.’ ”
I think it takes some time. If you are able to conduct more activities with them together, which I was trying to encourage you - to bridge the bonding that can come with stories, with emotions, then their sibling relationship will improve, in leaps and bounce.
Attention Seeking
Mother: “Sometimes, he doesn't allow his elder sister to talk. Sometimes when I read story, my elder girl wants to be the character, she will say ‘nono I will read this line’. He will say ‘no Jiejie, no talk!’ ”
Okay this is very natural. This is fighting for attention and love and limelight, which is very good. That is why in my ALP, you see these children who are trying to read right, they fight for their turns to read. It is good.
Mother: “He does not want to read either. He just does not want to hear his Jiejie read.”
I know but I am saying you can make use of this desire of trying to conquer to good use. It is up to us to maneuverer which direction they grow or tend towards. So this part where he wants to get your attention or trying to avoid somebody from being in the limelight in your favour, it is good.You steer it in the right direction, it is fine.
Behavioural differences - recognises anger, listens and apologises
In terms of behaviour, how was it different in the past?
Mother: “In the past, I recall that if he was in the wrong, when we scolded him, no expression, he would walk away. But now when we scold him, if he is in a good form, he will listen and proceed to apologise, proceed to say 'sorry mama', sayang us like that. Quite different from the past.”
This is very important because in terms of managing with other people, not just family, this is very essential skill. Because we never know when he steps on somebody’s tail. It is always good to say sorry first.
Mother: “Now he knows how to see our angry faces. In the past, he did not care. Even if we were very angry, he would just walk away.”
This is also a great progress.
More Wordy in expressing his desire instead of pulling hand gestures
In terms of communication skills, what is the progress?
Mother: “Now, he will say 'I want milk', 'I want TV', 'I want this toy', 'I want that book'. In the past, he would just pull our hands and walk (to certain thing), and then use our hands to touch the milk. He would not say (at all).”
So now he is wordy in terms of his requests.
Mother: “Yes, he is wordy, yes.”
Detox Reactions - Fever, Running Nose, Crying
So you mentioned he had fever once?
Mother: “He had fever once in January. Then after that not much.”
Not much detox?
Mother: “Previously, he did have some runny nose, but it stopped.”
No skin detox? Only emotional detox, the crying part.
Mother smiled in agreement.
You son has experienced this Sleep therapy over the past five and a half month. In terms of his sleep quality, what do you observe?
Mother: “I used to be on the bed with him, so I did see him fidget a lot. But I wa not sure whether he was not willing to sleep or he had trouble falling asleep. But now I do not need to be on the bed with him. I just need to tell him to just lie down on the pillow. I would say maybe on good days, within half an hour he can fall asleep. Sometimes he does take a longer time but I feel like that it is not like in the past when he was very unwilling. He knows that he is tired, he just need to lie down. He is getting more aware of this kind of emotion.”
So he would sleep on his own now?
Mother: “Yes, he sleeps on his own.”
Since when you started him sleeping on his own?
Mother: “In early February.”
That is two months after starting the Sleep Therapy.
Mother: “Yes, around 2 months.”
When he wakes up in the morning, does he feel cranky?
Mother: “No, usually not actually.”
So he is alert and recharged lah?
Mother: “Yah he is alert.”
Can tahan (last for) the whole day? Does he take naps?
Mother: “He does take naps in the school, but during weekends at home he does not take naps.”
Did the teachers feedback about his sleeping habits in school?
Mother: “The teacher did say most of the time he would nap, but maybe it's due to peer pressure. He will see others sleeping then he will also sleep.”
More Receptive to try new food
Mother: “Diet-wise, he is getting more greedy. Sometimes when we let him try new food, he tries it, he likes it, then he will ask for more. Sometimes, he will get angry if it is not enough. In the past when we said no more, he would just walk away. But now when we say no more, (he will say) "cannot". He will ask for more.”
You wrote here that it was difficult for him to try new foods in the past, so not receptive?
Mother: “Yes. Now we can use some songs. "Remember the coco-melon?" And then he will try.”
He used to be sensitive, what do you mean by that?
Mother: “In the past, we used to feed him sweet potato. Sweet potatoes taste the same, but sometimes he would spit out. Maybe the shape is different. I would say maybe it is food shapes rather than texture. He would spit out some of the sweet potatoes, but the taste was the same. We needed to cut a little smaller, (square, then he would be willing to eat.”
He used to be very sensitive in terms of his taste and smell.
Mother: “Yes.”
More aware on his toilet cues
How about toilet habits?
Mother: “We managed to toilet-train him during the CB (Circuit Breaker). He is more aware of having the feeling - "I need to go to the toilet now". Before that, he was in diapers.”
Partly because of his bladder now in better working condition, so you can see that this has improved a lot.
How about his (bowel) motion? Is it regular?
Mother: “It is quite regular. It is always around twice a day.”
There was a period of time when you mentioned that it reduced in frequency.
Mother: “Now, it is still twice a day.”
Texture wise? Hard or soft?
Mother: “Soft.”
We work on the diet, because the texture should not be too soft either, not too hard not too soft on the average, it depends on what we are eating.
Meltdowns with trigger points
Is there a period of time when there was meltdowns in terms of his behaviour?
Mother: “The meltdowns will always have a trigger point, which we know is always due to the lift. Because he is obsessed with it. If we don’t give him enough time to really see the lift, he will melt down. Other than that, not much. But recently, I will not say it is a meltdown. I would say it is a fight-off between him and his sister. Because there are certain behaviours that he cannot accept his sister will do, like turning on any of the electrical appliances or taking our things, he cannot accept. Then he will be very aggressive.”
So there it is trigger point?
Mother: “There is trigger point, yes.”
Was there an increase or decrease, in terms of sensitivity.
Mother: “Sensitivity to his emotions - I would say there is no increase. It is reasonable, because he does not accept, that is why he (acts up).”
So there is thinking on his part, or rather we say this is normalised reaction.
Mother: “Yes.”
Difference in Crying Now - No sound in the past
Mother: “He did not really cry out. Most of the time, he buried his head in either one of his caregivers or he just suddenly teared. He did not cry out as per (normal).”
That was in the past?
Mother: “That was the past. Now he will cry out with sound, which I find it more normal, more reassuring. Because I cannot really accept a child cries, just silently like that.”
With no reason?
Mother: “With reason, but it is actually very difficult to suppress your feelings without sound. I know he is upset but he does not have sounds - he was just tearing like that.”
So in the past you observed that it was abnormal?
Mother: “To me, it was quite worrying because he was like suppressing. Why couldn'’t he just let it out? But now, he will let it out, which I find okay.”
Is it possible to reason with him when he cries?
Mother: “Normally, we don’t really reason. We will tell him it is okay - we are here. Reasoning normally is after when he is more peaceful and calm.”
Play Fight Incident - Expressive in Writing
There was this incident where you told us that there was some fighting between the two siblings?
Mother: “Sometimes when they play, he will turn aggressive too. I also don’t know the reason why. They were like maybe playing catching. When he caught his sister, he would push her. Then he would push harder, keep pushing and pushing. Despite us saying "ok enough no pushing", it seems like he could not hear us.”
When he was angry?
Mother: “But they were playing just now. Or maybe, I missed out some details. Despite my several warnings, he did not stop pushing. I caned him. Then he wrote a lot of words to me, saying that he is sad and saying that he is a good boy, he is good Kaichen. When he showed me when he was sad, I explained to him that he cannot beat family, he cannot push family. We even have a family book with all those love balloons, that you need to fill with love, special value. Inside the balloons there is no pushing, there is no fighting. We did show him and then he just wrote that he is very sad.”
But did he apologise?
Mother: “He did apologise to his sister but it is more like because I caned him. I do not feel the sincerity. He just said out because of routine. Or because 'I am being beaten by mama, so I say sorry'.”
That is not too bad, that means he can understand the consequential effect!
More Expressive - Forming sentences, Sharing More, More Facial Expression
Did you notice the change in the way he expresses himself?
Mother: “Yes, last time he could only say two words or more. But now, he will try to form sentences although it is not very perfect but he will try to talk to you more. When he sees some things, he will let you know what did he see. He will share more things with us now.”
What are the words he will use?
Mother: “Most of the time, he will catch our attention first. "Ma look at me", "See the birds flying in the sky?", "It is so beautiful", "The orange building is so beautiful", like he will try to describe.”
This is two to three months after the Sleep Therapy?
Mother: “Longer than that. t only happened maybe somewhere in April.”
Three months - I noticed that in your chatgroup that he is saying things like "it’s so amazing", and he will convey to you how he feels.
Mother: “Yes. And I find that his expressions changed too. In the past, when he talked, it was empty - there was really no expression.”
Blank?
Mother: “Yes, it was blank. But now I find that his eyes are excited. He wants you to really look at him. He wants to share things with you.”
More engaged.
Mother: “Yes yes.”
How about his communication with his older sister?
Mother: “He loves to share things with her. But maybe because different interests. He doesn't really catch the elder sister’s attention. Sometimes the communication is one way. We will have to ask ‘Jiejie, Didi is talking to you. Answer him!’ But the jiejie is like ‘boring, I don’t want to talk to you.’ ”
I think it takes some time. If you are able to conduct more activities with them together, which I was trying to encourage you - to bridge the bonding that can come with stories, with emotions, then their sibling relationship will improve, in leaps and bounce.
Attention Seeking
Mother: “Sometimes, he doesn't allow his elder sister to talk. Sometimes when I read story, my elder girl wants to be the character, she will say ‘nono I will read this line’. He will say ‘no Jiejie, no talk!’ ”
Okay this is very natural. This is fighting for attention and love and limelight, which is very good. That is why in my ALP, you see these children who are trying to read right, they fight for their turns to read. It is good.
Mother: “He does not want to read either. He just does not want to hear his Jiejie read.”
I know but I am saying you can make use of this desire of trying to conquer to good use. It is up to us to maneuverer which direction they grow or tend towards. So this part where he wants to get your attention or trying to avoid somebody from being in the limelight in your favour, it is good.You steer it in the right direction, it is fine.
Behavioural differences - recognises anger, listens and apologises
In terms of behaviour, how was it different in the past?
Mother: “In the past, I recall that if he was in the wrong, when we scolded him, no expression, he would walk away. But now when we scold him, if he is in a good form, he will listen and proceed to apologise, proceed to say 'sorry mama', sayang us like that. Quite different from the past.”
This is very important because in terms of managing with other people, not just family, this is very essential skill. Because we never know when he steps on somebody’s tail. It is always good to say sorry first.
Mother: “Now he knows how to see our angry faces. In the past, he did not care. Even if we were very angry, he would just walk away.”
This is also a great progress.
More Wordy in expressing his desire instead of pulling hand gestures
In terms of communication skills, what is the progress?
Mother: “Now, he will say 'I want milk', 'I want TV', 'I want this toy', 'I want that book'. In the past, he would just pull our hands and walk (to certain thing), and then use our hands to touch the milk. He would not say (at all).”
So now he is wordy in terms of his requests.
Mother: “Yes, he is wordy, yes.”
Detox Reactions - Fever, Running Nose, Crying
So you mentioned he had fever once?
Mother: “He had fever once in January. Then after that not much.”
Not much detox?
Mother: “Previously, he did have some runny nose, but it stopped.”
No skin detox? Only emotional detox, the crying part.
Mother smiled in agreement.
Girl's Improvement interview Transcript
7yo Sister's Improvement
Detox Reaction - High Fever and Red Patch in the neck area
Your daughter had a fever?
Mother: “Yes, she had a fever in February, Chinese New Year.”
It’s actually on the eve, and then the actual 初一 (first day of CNY), I remember that.
Mother: “Yes.”
That was quite a long period right, two to three days?
Mother: “Around 2 days and it was quite high.”
You did give her medication?
Mother: “Yes, because it was above 40 degrees.”
Yes, right. Was there sponging?
Mother: “Yes I did sponging.”
But it still shot up.
Mother: “It still shot up, correct.”
You were giving ibuprofen?
Mother: “Yes.”
And there was some rashes?
Mother: “Before that, there were already rashes. But it was a patch more than a rash (pointing to neck area).”
That was before the fever?
Mother: “Was it before?”
If it happened before the fever, then it is likely to be a detox reaction from the sleep therapy because she was sleeping below your son (double-decker bed). If it happened after, then we are not there to judge because one of the side effects from fever medicine is also rashes.
Mother: “But she had Ibuprofen when she was young before, she didn’t have rashes before.”
Sometimes it is different age, different dosage and different response. But anyway, it did justify the medication because it was so high. We always want to play safe. Then subsequently, did she have any more detox?
Mother: “No.”
Do monitor because now we are trying to change their diets, it can come in another form in another round of detox.
Detox Reaction - High Fever and Red Patch in the neck area
Your daughter had a fever?
Mother: “Yes, she had a fever in February, Chinese New Year.”
It’s actually on the eve, and then the actual 初一 (first day of CNY), I remember that.
Mother: “Yes.”
That was quite a long period right, two to three days?
Mother: “Around 2 days and it was quite high.”
You did give her medication?
Mother: “Yes, because it was above 40 degrees.”
Yes, right. Was there sponging?
Mother: “Yes I did sponging.”
But it still shot up.
Mother: “It still shot up, correct.”
You were giving ibuprofen?
Mother: “Yes.”
And there was some rashes?
Mother: “Before that, there were already rashes. But it was a patch more than a rash (pointing to neck area).”
That was before the fever?
Mother: “Was it before?”
If it happened before the fever, then it is likely to be a detox reaction from the sleep therapy because she was sleeping below your son (double-decker bed). If it happened after, then we are not there to judge because one of the side effects from fever medicine is also rashes.
Mother: “But she had Ibuprofen when she was young before, she didn’t have rashes before.”
Sometimes it is different age, different dosage and different response. But anyway, it did justify the medication because it was so high. We always want to play safe. Then subsequently, did she have any more detox?
Mother: “No.”
Do monitor because now we are trying to change their diets, it can come in another form in another round of detox.